Thursday, 20 September 2012

Time Machine

Hello everybody! Special welcome to new visitors via the fabulous Susan of Une femme d'un certain age, who did such a lovely thing choosing my photo* to illustrate her post about the awesome Sheila's Dress Week of Horrors! roundup over at Ephemera. Thank you so much, Susan and Sheila - I am wicked honoured by your generosity! 

* More pics of that particular grey dress can be found in my post Dust Bunny


blouse: Mosskito, Winners
dress: Calvin Klein, Dillard's 75% off sale
necklace: thrifted
boots: Fluevog Heidi, 40th birthday gift from Beary last summer

About a year ago, my previously copacetic relationship with time hit the skids. I seem to have lost my punctuality mojo - perhaps I over-used it during the first half of my life and just don't have any left? It used to be so easy.  




Lately I find myself constantly frustrated by having to interrupt what I'm doing before I'm finished because it's time for other things - time to leave for this or that, time for my next meeting or appointment, time to take care of the chickens, time to go to bed, and so on. I'm not sure how something I used to be so good at became so complicated. 
Is this another turning-40 thing? 




Fortunately I've got some time off work coming up - I am hurting for rest and down time. Unfortunately, despite my best efforts to protect it, I hang my head when I think of everything already cluttering it up. I don't know what to make of my apparent demotion from feeling pretty much in charge of this stuff! 




Something I've been musing on a while is the body as time machine. We're made up of so many measured rhythms: breathing, digestion, synapse firing, cell turnover, musculoskeletal movement and processes, hair and nail growth, sleep stages, and, of course, the ol' ticker. I'd love to figure out what's out of sync and hit the re-set button: the particular adjustment to my approach which will put things back to rights. Or at least a reasonable hand-drawn facsimile of same. 

Wishing well-suited anchorings in the space-time continuum to y'all! 


32 comments:

  1. Love your layering with this great dress! Those boots are To Die For.

    Time's such an elastic thing - and our bodies are NOT! So unfair...My memory is totally going these days (I blame peri-menopause, ack!).

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    1. Oh Sheila, thanks so much, and I hear you! I am perpetually at some awkward age or other, lol.

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  2. You have the most FABULOUS jewelry! LOVE those beads!
    XOXO
    -Daisy Nguyen from PS BANANAS fashion blog:
    http://psbananas.com

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    1. Thanks, Daisy! They have a great weight and rope-like feel.

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  3. My dear i so enjoy your musings on life...I always leave thinking...and oh how refreshing that is!

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    1. I am especially glad to hear that fro you, Tamera! I'd thought my blog would be closely outfit-focussed but find myself often nattering on about something or other. :)

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  4. Boots in third position. How ballet of you. Interesting musings on time. It drives me crazy that I can't control it. I can accept it but I will not give in to it!
    Connie*

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    1. Connie, that is hilarious - I hadn't noticed the 3rd. pos! Funny how standing certain ways still feels "right like this" so many years later.

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  5. I'm feeling something Star Trek about this, the pointy collar perhaps? Awesome boots with those socks!! I often think about decrepitudinization. Sometimes I wonder if the disappearance of brain cells that begins around 30(?) is actually a benefit - we're just sloughing off the extra bits, including those pesky gatekeeping cells, so that we can let those high-intensity cells that are left really let loose... It helps me feel good about the aging process at least.

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    1. Yes, of course that pruning process must be a great distillation, and I am simply stuff I don't need after all!

      "Decrepitudinization" is my new favourite word!

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  6. Oh wow Amber you've completely summed up my own puzzlement over my timekeeping - I can blame it on using up all my punctuality in my youth!!! Thank you for the excuse, heehee ;)

    I love the fierce boots and the layering, you're a bit of an expert in that department - we're all getting a bit layered up in preparation for the cold, aren't we?

    Have a great weekend, sweetie!

    Catherine x
    http://notdressedaslamb.com

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    1. You too, hey, Catherine? :)

      I was a bit warm in this, which was a risk being not easily temp-adjustable. It's one I like in any case because it shifts around usual bare vs. covered areas.

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  7. And I thought it was just me. I was never exceptionally organized anyway, so now it's crazy. I was recently reminded by a youthful skateboarding friend, "Just go with it, man." That has actually helped, if not with the actual frenetic activity, then at least with my attitude towards it all.

    I also think that technology has totally changed our perceptions/expectations regarding time. Cell phones, email, etc. have changed the "reality" of time and response. I'm not convinced that we're biologically equipped to deal with it all. It becomes stressful, and we blame ourselves, i.e. we're getting older etc. Points to ponder.

    In the meantime, I'm enjoying your outfits and musings on life!! The fabric of the dress is very intriguing and I love the way you've layered it. You must have an incredible boot collection, too. LOVE THESE.

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    1. "Just go with it, man" - great reminder, Jean! Yes, things do go much easier when one casts off the anxiety generated by all the modern time-pressures.

      Thanks for your kind feedback!

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  8. hmmmm, I think as I get older I just don't bother getting worked up about what I call the small stuff. Of course that used to be the main stuff when I was younger. Like I can't tolerate all the bullshite I bought into before. Everyday practically is a new normal for me now. But I do have to say, when it came down to it, I really did have a hard time with aging when it started to show in my mid 50's. Being a feminist it really killed me that I was so profoundly effected. Stumbling upon Advanced Style was a saving grace for me. And the rest is herstory.

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    1. You are ever-wise, Pao! Yes, we feminists are also immersed in and not immune to the dominant culture. Advanced Style is serving a crucial role for so many of us, myself included, and I was thrilled when the book came out - it was my birthday gift to my mother, who is a style icon in her own right.

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  9. I am so behind in my reading! I'm glad I caught up with this post though because I totally get where you're at. I keep going "yay I finished it" and then going "oh crap I need to do this now" - I started getting sick this week and all I can think is I don't have time to be sick! I think Jean is right, we take on too much.

    I adore your boots! Fluevogs are the best.

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    1. Definitely me too with the perpetually behind and taking on too much!
      I'm sending well-wishing thoughts your way, xo

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  10. I'd settle for just a 'pause' button on the time machine!
    You're my newest style icon Amber. Everything you wear is so unique.

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    1. Thank you Sheila - the admiration is mutual! Hope your clothing swap is going well, fantastic idea.

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  11. I love this outfit. So happy that Fall is coming so we can start wearing our boots and tights again!

    I recently made a big change in my life and I find all my rhythms and cycles and usual routines have gone out the window. I'm excited to have a new start on life - to find a new me.

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    1. Thanks, Megan - I'm still waiting to crack out the tights, but looking forward to it big time.

      Glad to hear your changes are shaking things up in a good way and would love to hear more.

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  12. I love learning new words. I just had to look up copacetic. I will sprinkle my conversation with it now I know what it means!
    Time time time, see what's become of me... I feel the same, a once organised and efficient timekeeper gone bad. A reset button would be good.
    Love your frock, I didn't realise it is a quirky kind of houndstooth till I saw the close ups. And you could kick some serious ass with those boots. Go on, Amber, kick Time right up the bum! xxxx

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    1. Ha! Thanks for always being so encouraging, Curtise! It's only the rare high-contrast graphic pattern that will work for me, and this being ivory helps.

      Thinking of you & hoping you're on the mend, xo

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  13. Beary gives great birthday gifts, and I love your creative layering and black necklace. I am on the hunt for a pair of reasonably priced gray boots, and having an awful time finding anything. I long for the Fluevogs Miracle Lourdes boots on sale, but that kind of purchase is not included in our stoopid budget :(

    It's critical to take a break from the grind every now and then. I nearly hit nervous breakdown mode recently (it probably looked like a full up one to others) and found even a couple of days of quiet time helped get me back on track. I'm starting to get more selfish with my weekend time, because of the necessity to recharge.

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    1. Ack, stoopid budgets! Good luck to your grey boots search, Lynne!

      It always amazes me that self-care is so hard, even though we already absolutely know there is a finite amount we can overextend and sacrifice before it costs us big time. I'm so glad you took some quality recharge time and are being guided by your wisdom going forward. I am forever learning this!

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  14. Amber, everything about you is just perfection. I love your style and your mind. Contemplation is such a good thing and missing from most of society. Regarding having so many things on the plate at once... I feel you. I have 10 helpings of too much on my small plate as it is. More helpings are piled on top every week. I can't see past the plate now. Meditating daily for 30-45 minutes helps me to survive. When I say meditate, I don't mean with my legs crossed either. I mean just stopping and laying down and letting it all go for even 10-15 minutes helps tremendously. It makes me STOP and that is what I need sometimes. Love your outfit. :-)

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    1. Thank you for your generous feedback, Rachel! You are so right that it is essential to find some way(s) of self-care which allow us freedom from the ubiquitous overload. I appreciate learning what others find so helpful!

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  15. Love how youve styled this dress. Love your musings too, I cant seem to have anough time to do everything I want to do, working full tme do take up soooo many hours of my day, I wish we had 48 hours instead of 24. And then there is sleeping, eating, excersise, housework, gardening, ugh I feel like im spending too much time on doing chores and that really annoys me. My to do list is endless and everlasting.......

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    1. Thank you, dear Izzy! Yes, after work and everything associated with it, I too have a tendency to put chores first, but soon everything turns into a chore, and that's not fun or sustainable! Always aiming for balance. :) I find that the blogging is clearing a little enjoyable and reflective space for me.

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  16. Not sure how I missed this post, but yes, we are dress twins!!! And both styled with ass-kicking boots - how frackin' awesome are we? I have found my time management skills have diminished considerably, especially in the last decade. I used to be able to get so many things done outside of work hours and now it's all I can do to blog regularly and keep up with everyone else's posts. Good thing I don't have kids, pets or a partner because they would be neglected just so I can get a blog post done ;)

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    1. The answer is that we are SUPER-awesome. :)

      Ugh about the time-flying - there is so much more to which I wish I could give my thorough, uninterrupted attention. All we can do is our best, and to keep learning!

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Thank you for your comments!
- Amber